Incidents of a Different Kind

First post of the blog. Well very first sentence anyway (I think!).

I had wanted to post this entry a long time ago but didn't think it was worthwhile to do so till now. I took up this name as the love of my life adores this phrase or nickname a lot and this blog is a dedication to her.

You see, sometimes different kind of things happen to us. Many of us go through life with hiccups along the way or if we're really lucky, just go through life without any obstacles.

I'm not so lucky to go through life without any obstacles but I count myself lucky to still be able to pick up the pieces everytime I fall.

During the past 25 plus years I've been around, I've gone through many issues. Some of the negative ones - depression, anxiety attacks, break ups, dishonesty, being used, disloyalty. Some positive ones - Going through a few relationships then actually finding the right one which I'm currently sticking to, loyalty of friends, being promoted and recognized in the jobs I've held. Once, I randomly told some of the stuff I had gone through to a friend I met at a bar cum restaurant (she was with her family of 2 kids and a loving husband) and she was actually shocked and mentioned, "Are you of a different kind? How have you gone through so many things for a 25 year old when I am 30 and I have not gone through even a quarter of the things which you have?"

Life is not about shortcuts, its about the long journey through it which builds us up. Take a shortcut and you'd pay the consequences. There are no shortcuts in life.

Lemme tell you a little bit about the love of my life. She's stubborn - often does the opposite of what you say, short tempered, grumpy, egoistic, mischevious, pessimistic but also affectionate, adorable, intelligent, humorous, very active, efficient, thoughtful, loyal, observant. I get the sentences "Go find other girls better than me" or "I am not the right one for you" quite often but I know from the bottom of my heart this is the girl I will spend the rest of my life with and I have promised not to leave her no matter what.

Now, I am being faced with a dilemma. The love of my life at the moment is probably currently sitting down in front of a computer table, reading her notes while angrily thinking her boyfriend is always controlling her. She probably wants to end things as I've asked her to study and not just always face the laptop screen and waste away precious time talking to guys who utter sweet words. If I do not love her I'd just let her fail and get lower grades and ultimately forgoing her scholarship but I do love her and do not want to see her down this path that is why I sometimes tell her whats right from the wrong. I cannot ignore something which will have consequences in the future.

Sometimes, a person will need your loved ones to tell him or her what is right and not just follow the ego. Its like I always think I am right then sometimes the things which my sister says is true in the end. I've done many mistakes ignoring or not heeding a loved one's advice and I have paid dues many times worth my while which I could have avoided.